This book is packed with humour alongside wisdom. I love Nicki’s fixer upper farm, Fred the donkey and the anecdotes Nicki shares about her family. The best part of this is the way she weaves biblical truths into it so I now remember the truths because of the stories.

Broken into easy-to-digest sections with biblical truths and practical application, this book has it all. I love the challenges like “Compare+Compliment+Calculate the cost= Take control of comparison” which has three scenarios to explain it and biblical truth to back it up! It also has easy to share quotes like “God’s purpose isn’t a battlefield for competition. It’s a safe haven of calling.” which I can hear myself sharing amongst friends and discussing.

I want the mindset shift described by her 6 truths:

You need to be honest
See it like it really is
You don’t always have to be ok (this one is FOR ME, I swear!)
Sometimes you didn’t do anything wrong (loved this one too)
Her gain is not your loss
Let others’ success and struggles steer you (such wisdom)

Wow, if I can do that, what a massive change!

Intellectually, I loved how she tackled one of the toughest stories in the Bible to understand: Rachel and Leah! It’s one I categorised as confusing but “Old Testament” but spending time digging into these verses, taking on each of their burdens and really understanding them was fascinating and enlightening.

Practically, this book is chockablock! My favourite applications are the questions she poses for me to ponder like “1. does it come from a place of jealousy? 2. does it line up with Word and character of God? 3. Does it make God look great?” as well as the ones that call us to change our behaviour today like working on your calling rather than the Netflix binge.

Other favourite lines include:

“God didn’t bless Leah for any other reason than for why He Blesses us – to help her know she was loved by Him…”
“God designed us with a desire for community. Comparison convinces us that community doesn’t exist for us.”
“Abundance. God doesn’t do anything halfway. So what are you taking back today?
One thing I’ve come to fully understand about my soul is this: I’m the only one who can take care of it.”
“What is a situation in your life you need to choose insight over offence?”

Nicki has an amazing gift, she has the ability to bring Old Testament characters like Leah and Rachel to life in a way I gain a new understanding of familiar texts. She relates these to her modern day anecdotes which I can apply to my life and share biblical wisdom I can live out today! She has reframed comparison and given a strong way in which I can tackle in a God-centred way. Five out of five and highly recommended!

From the back cover:

If success is defined in the eye of the beholder, who are you letting behold your success? Nicki Koziarz is confronting the comparison question: Why her? Through two striving sisters in the Bible, Nicki uncovered six truths’ we need to hear when trying to measure up leaves you falling behind. These six truths will help you:

  • Stop staring at her success and find satisfaction in yours.
  • Find contentment with your life without being complacent in who you are becoming.
  • Gain godly wisdom to answer the Why Her silent question of your soul.

Someone will always be ahead. But that doesn’t mean you’re behind. Because Truth, like always, will set us free. And free women don’t have to measure up to anybody. Not even her.

With thanks to NetGalley and B&H Publishing Group for the advanced copy.

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