I have enjoyed being apart of Brene Brown’s and Oprah’s Life Class for the past 5 weeks and one of the exercises focussed on Authenticity. Brene states authenticity is a practice so needs to be integrated into one’s life and the exercises help you work out where one needs to work.
In doing it, it struck me that it is a particular challenge for those of us with chronic pain syndromes, or in fact, any condition that doesn’t change on a daily basis. I don’t want to come across as a “complainer” every time someone asks “How are you?” and I don’t want to be inauthentic. Continuously saying “much the same”, “in pain”, “a bit better” seems to make the on and on-ness of the condition all the more real. Bouncing out an “all good” ignores the care that the friend is trying to instil in the moment. In the same way, I don’t expect my friends to ignore my condition, I want them to be understanding of the ups and downs which means they need to know about them.
It is a conumdrum with which I am still struggling. Any suggestions from sufferers and friends of sufferers?